Tonight I became a cliché. I reenacted the shower scene from almost every movie involving assault. You know the one. Where the girl gets in the shower to wash off the residual stench of perv and ends up sinking to the ground, hugging her knees, and sobbing uncontrollably.
He didn’t touch me.
But I didn’t even notice when the water started running cold.
He didn’t hurt me.
But I had to cup my hands over my mouth so my roommate wouldn’t hear me crying.
He only spoke to me.
But this didn’t reassure me enough to stop the vomiting.
He bolted when I reached for my phone.
But I can’t imagine ever going back there because I’m too scared to sleep in my own bed, much less open the door.
I walked out of my house in pursuit of strength, and now I’m searching for what little courage I can find in a bottle of booze. And I am pissed.
I am pissed.
I AM PISSED.
YOU WILL NOT BREAK ME.
I’m over here trying to ration a packet of ramen to last me a week, and these two are all,
Look at me, riding around the Pyramids of Giza on camels and ATVs. No biggie.
If you deliberately seek out any of these images, you are directly participating in the violation not just of numerous women’s privacy but also of their bodies.In what’s being called the biggest celebrity hacking incident in internet history, more than 100 female celebrities have had their private nude images stolen and published online. The bulk of the images posted have been officially confirmed as belonging to Jennifer Lawrence, but a complete list of victims’ names - including Krysten Ritter, Kate Upton, Mary Elizabeth Winstead, Rihanna, Brie Larson and Kirsten Dunst - has been subsequently published. (Link does not contain pictures, only names.)The images were first uploaded by an anonymous member of the underground internet sewer known as 4chan and have since been enthusiastically shared across platforms like Reddit and Twitter. A representative for Lawrence has confirmed the images are real, condemning the theft of them as a “flagrant violation of privacy” and adding that “The authorities have been contacted and will prosecute anyone who posts the stolen photos.”There are a few different issues that a criminal act like this brings up, but before I get into them it’s necessary to make one thing clear: If you deliberately seek out any of these images, you are directly participating in the violation not just of numerous women’s privacy but also of their bodies. These images - which I have not seen and which I will not look for - are intimate, private moments belonging only to the people who appear in them and who they have invited to see them. To have those moments stolen and broadcast to the world is an egregious act of psychic violence which constitutes a form of assault.The people sharing these images are perpetuating an ongoing assault. The people gleefully looking at them are witnessing and enjoying an ongoing assault. When you have been asked by victims of a crime like this not to exacerbate the pain of that crime and you continue to do so anyway, you are consciously deciding that your enjoyment, your rights and perhaps even just your curiosity are more important than the safety and dignity of the people you’re exploiting.That out of the way, let’s get a few other things straight.1. This is not a ‘scandal’It’s a crime, and we should be discussing it as such. Some media outlets are salaciously reporting it otherwise, as if the illegal violation of privacy involving intimate images is little more than subject for gossip. When associated with sex, the word ‘scandal’ has been typically interpreted as something that assigns responsibility to all parties involved, a consensual act unfortunately discovered and for which everyone owes an explanation or apology. Remember when private nude photos of Vanessa Hudgens (whose name also appears on the list of victims) were leaked online and Disney forced her to publicly apologise for her “lapse in judgment” and hoped she had “learned a valuable lesson”? Never mind that Hudgens was an adult and a victim of privacy violation - the ‘scandal’ was painted as something for which she owed her fans an apology. Which leads us to:2. These women do not ‘only have themselves to blame’While depressing, it’s sadly unsurprising to see some people arguing that Lawrence et al brought this on themselves. Part of living in a rape culture is the ongoing expectation that women are responsible for protecting themselves from abuse, and that means avoiding behaviour which might be later ‘exploited’ by the people who are conveniently never held to account for their actions. But women are entitled to consensually engage in their sexuality any way they see fit. If that involves taking nude self portraits for the enjoyment of themselves or consciously selected others, that’s their prerogative.Victims of crime do not have an obligation to accept dual responsibility for that crime. Women who take nude photographs of themselves are not committing a criminal act, and they shouldn’t ‘expect’ to become victims to one, as actress Mary E. Winstead pointed out on Twitter.Sending a photograph of your breasts to one person isn’t consenting to having the whole world see those breasts, just as consenting to sex with one person isn’t the same as giving permission for everyone else to fu*k you. Victim blaming isn’t okay, even if it does give you a private thrill to humiliate the female victims of sexual exploitation.3. It doesn’t matter that ‘damn, she looks good and should own it!’Stealing and sharing the private photographs of women doesn’t become less of a crime just because you approve them for fapping activity. I’m sure many of the women on this list are confident of their sexual attractiveness. It doesn’t mean they don’t value their privacy or shouldn’t expect to enjoy the same rights to it as everyone else. It also doesn’t mean they want strangers sweating over their images. That line of thinking comes from the same school which instructs women to either ignore of welcome sexual harassment when it’s seemingly ‘positive’ in its sentiments.None of these women are likely to give a shit that you think their bodies are ‘tight, damn’. Despite what society reinforces to us about the public ownership of women’s bodies, we are not entitled to co-opt and objectify them just because we think we can defend it as a compliment.I will not be seeking out these images out and I urge everyone else to avoid doing the same. I hope that all the women who have been victimised here are being appropriately supported by the authorities and their network of friends. And I hope sincerely that more people take a stand against this kind of behaviour.Because this incident aside, it strikes me as deeply ironic that we will vehemently protest a free Facebook messenger app because we’re outraged at reports that it can access our phone’s numbers, and yet turn around and excuse the serving up of women’s bodies for our own pleasure. Our appreciation is no less disgusting just because it’s accompanied by the sound of one hand clapping.Source: Clementine Ford at DailyLife
I couldn’t find a translated version. I wish you all could understand her, but let me tell you this: To say that she is a real life Wonder Woman would be a tragic understatement. What a remarkably kind-hearted human being.
This woman is from my family’s hometown in Poland, and people talk so much shit about her behind her back as well as to her face. Then there are the occasional snarky comments, not necessarily spoken to her but said just loud enough for her to know they’re shooting in her direction. She is chastised for having the audacity to bring precious life into the world despite the difficulties of her handicap and because people find it completely unacceptable to “go and get yourself pregnant” knowing there’s a possibility your child may be born with the same problems. Ummmmm…she wasn’t the only one in the room! Talk about deadbeat dad. Who knocks up a disabled woman and takes off? Yet he gets no flack for his part in the procreation, nor for not taking responsibility.
Let me tell you something, if that precious baby turns out half as loving and compassionate as her mother, the world will be an infinitely better place.
I leave you with one of my favorite sayings: Polak potrafi.
No nie, ashaonrun?
Either my ass looks insanely great in these yoga pants or the apocalypse is nigh, my friends.
I dunno what kinda games the universe is playing with me tonight, but it’s getting ridiculous. I look like a complete scumbag, zero makeup, in a crusty, old t-shirt that’s 2 sizes too big on me (with pasta stains on it!), sporting a bandana partly because I just went to the gym but mostly cuz my hair’s gross right now, stink like a [insert expletive here], and I get hit on not once, not twice, but three fucking times looking like this. I mean, at least Tony didn’t have to smell me cuz that was before the gym but seriously, like wtf. I haven’t even left the neighborhood!
(Hint: These pants are completely unflattering so ya’ll better start getting right with Jesus.)
|Adorable Neighbor Crush:||Come by for a drink later if you're not busy.|
|Me:||Thanks but I still gotta empty the dishwasher, and I reeeeeally need to get to the gym.|
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